This past Thursday, our fearless leader Miriam shared with us her presentation entitled “ Family Events “

She began by asking us to share a word that would describe how you feel at family events.  Some of the words shared were hopeful, scared, and anxious.

Or maybe we even have bad memories of the Holidays last year. 

Miriam shared that she visited her Mom last Summer in July.  She was a little anxious about visiting her Mom and family,  but to her surprise everyone got along and it all worked out.  So, when we have these visits with our families, what if it all works out?  

Miriam gave us different ways that we can have a better family event.  There are ways that you can prepare in advance for your defense.

1) Identify your triggers, and prepare for them.

2) Set realistic expectations.  Find little moments of joy that can supersede the negative things.

3) Establish and communicate boundaries.

4) Plan a self-care strategy for when you start to feel anxious.

5) Arrange an exit strategy for your departure.  Remember it’s okay to walk away from people who are not treating you well.

6) Find an ally.   Find someone who you do like and have a good conversation.

7) Use effective communication.

8) Practice active listening.

9) Try to focus on the moments of joy.

10) Reflect on what went well and what did not go well.

And finally, practice self-compassion and be kind to yourself.  

Miriam gave us great helpful tips and advice for when we get together with our families.  I for one will try and use some of this information the next time I am with my family!