On Thursday February 29th, Miriam shared with the group her most recent presentation entitled “ Self-Sabotage”

      So, what is Self-sabotage?  Self-sabotage can be thoughts or patterns that you engage in that may create obstacles.  Sometimes with these thoughts we may tend to “ get in our own way” 

Sometimes there are mindsets and patterns we have that may be a form of self-sabotage. You may not even be aware of your own self-sabotage.  So what are some other signs of self-sabotage? 

– you may procrastinate

– you may tend to have all or nothing thinking

– you may have trouble struggling with moderation 

– a lack of communication with others

– you may highlight failures by asking for help 

– setting goals that are too high or too low

– avoiding or withdrawing from others

     Sometimes your subconscious may push you towards a decision that feels safe. Or you may have a fear of success or of what others think about you. 

Just try to remember that failure is nothing to be ashamed of. Sometimes we learn things the hard way through our own experiences and failures. 

When it comes to worrying about what others think of you, Miriam shared a quote for us from her Dad that really resonated with me 

“ other peoples opinions about you are none of your business “ 

But instead of fearing rejection or ridicule, you can decide to change your outlook. Miriam shared that the opposite of self-sabotage is self-care. We have to stop and decide what we truly want out of life and go for it.

 Some ways to help stop self-sabotage:

– become more self-aware of the thoughts or patterns that you are engaging in

– Re-frame…really take a look at what’s going on and what’s making you feel a certain way , and try to re-frame things in a more positive way. 

– most of the times when you’re stuck in these patterns, there is an uncomfortable feeling you’re trying to avoid.

     Try using positive affirmations to help you succeed in life. And most importantly, reach out for support during these times when you need it the most!